Growing up in an traditional old fashion household, Central American Country, the male is the dominant one. As a child, I observed my father, as a provider, as a husband, and as a parent. I remember him being there with presents at all the special occasions. As a young adult, I learned from both parents, my father practiced his own father’s traumas, follow his exact footsteps, which controlled all aspects that compose our household. My mother and us had no choice but to adhere. By the time myself and brother were mature adults, we realized, convinced and, motivated our Mom to go back to school and get a job. This helped her tremendously, we sought the time for a new horizon. This change in our Mom, made us realize there is a difference between dominance and abuse. After acquiring a degree from college, today, I see money as a tool to acquire the basics to live. I include my spouses in this process, without prejudice, as well as all as aspects relevant to a standard household. A a matter of fact, my wife has complete autonomy and confidence in allocating all our fiances, and let me tell you, does a darn excellent job of it. I am proud to say we could not be in better hands. We have been able to accomplish most than the majority in our age group.
When we hear or are made aware, of a family member, friend or neighbor that is being abused of domestic violence, we automatically assume its physical abuse. However, financial abuse is present in 98% of all domestic violence cases and by far the most powerful way to keep a victim trapped. Domestic violence affects one in four women in her lifetime, let me say that again, ONE in every FOUR women are affected by domestic violence, which is more than breast cancer, ovarian cancer and lung cancer COMBINED. Domestic violence and financial abuse often go in hand-in-hand, however, 8 out of 10 North Americans are not aware of financial abuse labeled as domestic violence. The number one reason domestic violence survivor, stays, leaves or returns, back to the abusive partner/relationship, is the abused does not foresee financial stability to break free. Two-thirds of North Americans believe that domestic violence is a serious issue, yet solely 1 in 3 have ever talked about it. Allstate Foundation Purple Purse aims to make fashionable to verbally express yourself about this difficult topic.
Reach out to help and ensure domestic violence survivors, someone you know, is NOT financially trapped in an abusive relationship, by joining the Purple Purse Challenge. Open your heart and wallet to stand up for the survivors and the organization the serve them at . The Allstate Foundation is investing more than half a million dollars in the Purple Purse Challange. The more donations each non-profit receives, the more it can compete for All State Foundation Challenge incentive funding. Go to between September 2nd & October 3rd to join the challenge and help a nonprofit near you. Kerry Washington, Emmy-nominated actress and domestic violence activist, is serving as a Purple Purse ambassador to assist in raising awareness for the cause and has designated a limited-edition purple purse. The purse was created to present the center of a woman’s financial domain and to inspire women to reclaim independence.
To turn any purse into a Purple Purse, The Allstate Foundation is widely distributing Purple Purse charms so you can show your support and attach to your favorites bag year round, which are being distributed with inspiring survivor stories through Purple Purse Challenge participants and Allstate agency owners. PurplePurse.com has important tips and tools to help you recognize domestic violence and financial abuse, speak about it ans end it. Financial abuse is just as effective in controlling an abused victim as a lock and key. If her credit has been ruined, she can not acquire an apartment. If her abuser constantly harassers her at work, she can can lose her employment. And crushing dept run up by her abuser, means it could take a survivor and her children years and a lifetime, or never to fully recover. Since 2005, The Allstate foundation has invested more than $40 million across the country to help domestic violence survivors regain control of their finances and break free from abuse. New evidence from the Center on Violence Against Women & Children at Rutgers University school of Social Works indicates the boosting a survivor’s financial literacy, skills and resources can create a path toward long-term safety and security for survivors.
Now as a Man, Son, Husband, and a Father, if you are in an abusive relationship, I encourage you to reach out/seek immediate help, it is imperative this vicious damaging abuse ends.
If you have someone you know needs immediate help, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE.
Disclosure: This is a compensated campaign in collaboration with Allstate Foundation® and Latina Bloggers Connect.